GRACE FUNERAL HOME IS HERE TO SERVE WITH COMPASSION AND DIGNITY.
For the families of GRACE FUNERAL HOME, the funeral will be a ceremony of proven worth and value. It will provide an opportunity for the family and friends who share in the loss to express their love, respect, grief and appreciation for a life that has been well lived.
The staff of GRACE is dedicated to providing a service of excellence, no matter your financial means.
Our mission is to provide a dignified, respectful service of excellence to all who entrust their loved ones to its care. We offer pre-need and at-need planning, grief counseling, and assistance with all phases of preparation of homegoing celebrations for your loved ones. We are committed to easing your burden at your time of loss by providing a full-service in accord with your desire, whether it be a church service or chapel service, cremation, burial, or shipment to another location.
WORDS FROM OUR FUNERAL DIRECTORS
Death is a different and difficult experience for everyone. Even if you have experienced a loss yourself it is still hard to console someone close to you who has suffered a loss.
Below are some tips and suggesstions on how you can help the bereaved.
Grace Funeral Home President CEO/Owner
Licensed Funeral Director
A short explanation of grief
Grief is the
physical, emotional and mental condition brought on by a loss, such as the death of someone you love. Grief is our body's natural ability to heal our emotional injury. Grieving can be hard and a lack of understanding makes it even harder. Grief is a personal process characterized by three stages.
The first phase is Shock (denial)
This begins with the news of the death. The reality of the death may occur within a few minutes, a few days or sometimes several months later. This phase "protects" the survivor from the emotional impact of the death. One may experience a need to stay busy, confusion, an inability to express emotion, an inability to function normally, and an overwhelming sense that something is wrong without grasping the reality of the loss.
The second phase
This phase is the expression of grief (i.e. bargaining, anger, depresssion) and may last for several days to several years. Mental: Preoccupation with the death, inability to focus, concentrate, or remember, lack of productivity, paranoia or, inconsistent thoughts. Physical: Fatigue, weakness, insomnia, weight gain or loss, headaches, tendency to catch stress-related illness, a sense of vulnerability, discomfort with too much activity or too many people. Emotional: Intense sadness, fear anxiety, anger, depression, loneliness, confusion, helplessness, insolation and guilt. The inability to feel or give love, compulsive behavior, thinking that you are "crazy". If an individual is experiencing these symptoms, realize that they are quite normal and in many ways are a necessary part of the healing process of grief. These expressions are usually temporary. However, if the individual is experiencing these conditions acutely and is not able to handle the grief on their own, professional help be it medical or psycholocial may be needed.
The third and final stage is Acceptance:
You will know the individual has reached this stage when they are able to recall memories of their deceased loved one fondly and pleasantly, instead of painfully. Once acceptance has been reached, planning for the future becomes more realistic. A new and wiser individual will have emerged.
HOW CAN YOU HELP?
Before the Funeral
(sometimes it is best not to ask or offer, but to just do it)
- Offer to notify family and friends about the death and funeral arrangements
- Help to keep the kitchen, bathroom and living area clean
- House-sit to receive friends, and prevent burglaries when the family must be away
- Help answering the phone and keep a record of all calls and visits
- Help coordinate the food and drink supply
- Offer to pick up friends and family at the airport, and assist in arranging housing
- Offer to transport out-of-town visitors
After the Funeral
(consider doing these every week for two or three months)
- Write notes of encouragment and support
- Help with Thank You notes and /or other correspondence
- Prepare or provide dinner on a day that is mutually acceptable
- Offer to help with chores
- Offer to feed or exercise pets, if any
- Offer to house sit if the family need to get away
- Make a weekly run to the grocery store, laundry, or cleaners
- Anticipate difficult periods such as anniversaries, birthdays, holidays
- Always mention the deceased by name and encourage reminiscing